"http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

Below are a few points by Brene Brown, vulnerability and shame researcher, that I took away from this talk and really appreciated:

"Do you have the courage to be imperfect".

A parent's job is not to tell their child that they are perfect or that they should strive for perfection, but to let them know – "You're imperfect and you're wired for struggle but your worthy of love and belonging".

When we avoid vulnerability, we numb, we become “certain” (often blame those who do not hold that same certainty), strive to be perfect, and pretend (that what we do doesn’t have an effect on others).

Blame (defined)- a way to discharge pain and discomfort.